Somebody spank my ass please!
Folks, I am not getting any of that. I miss it terribly. I am fucking like a freakin' rabbit but still not getting off good. I spent the last four days with my latest lover (aka Lover). We fucked 3 times a day but I had to come home and masturbate to really get off. I've gotten Lover to the point of understanding how to suck my breasts/nipples for my delight. I have taught him to put his fingers in my wet pussy and pump for all he's worth (and stopped him from roughly rubbing the hell out of my labia...OUCH!). This weekend I got him to spank me a little. I talked him through it. After a few minutes he stopped and said, "H I don't like this." I said, "But I do. It feels good. It's like a massage, a great skin sensation, and it is good for the circulation." With a look of worry Lover replied, "That still doesn't make it feel any better." I took a deep breath and asked him to try again. I showed him specifically where I liked to be hit and told him he could relax, the goal wasn't to hit me as hard or as fast as possible. Second go round, he went a little longer and he seemed to engage more in what he was doing. It was a small moment of bliss.
I am glad Lover wasn't weirded out by the fact that I love to be spanked. The next day I told him I need spankings. We did not have a full discussion on this but much later in the day, after I said something sassy, Lover made the comment, "You need to be spanked." With a huge smile I said, "You know it!" He laughed and donned a big wonderful smile.
What I notice about Lover is he doesn't mind me doing what I want to him; some of these things are new to him but he doesn't do anything erotic or even sensual to me. But I think if I gently guide him he will be game for more fun erotic and slightly kinky stuff.
For example, in the beginning of our relationship, Lover had a standard playbook of kissing, then lapping at my nipples really fast with a stiffened tongue, and moving right into fucking. That's all good but minor to what we could be doing and paltry to what I need to really be pleasured. I am VERY oral and he has a wonderful chocolate body so during one encounter I licked his thighs, inner thighs, ass checks, teased at the crack of his SUPER FANTASTIC BUNS OF STEEL with my tongue, then lightly dragged my moist tongue up his back. When I reach his neck I laid on top of him and kissed and nibbled on his neck and licked his ears (he loves the latter). He really got into that but what I really liked was his next move. He moved from underneath me, put me on my stomach, and he mimicked exactly what I did to him. That means he is teachable! And open to learn new things and expand his playbook a little. He had never explored my body like that.
In his defense, Lover has asked twice to go down on me (cunnilingus) but I passed. Also, he was married at age 20 to an older woman and that marriage lasted 22 years. He has never had sex outside his marriage until his divorce two years ago. I think he's just lacking new, fun, and exciting experiences. For now, I am appointing myself as his sexual ambassador. ;-)
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