Whip It Out!

I wrote in another post that ANR is at my core. For those of you who don't know ANR * is the acronym for adult nursing relationship. Let's not forget about the last letter of the acronym—R, for relationship.

Lately, I've been reading a lot of internet postings from men who definitely seem to forget the R, not see the R, not understand the meaning of the full acronym—there is an R.

I have seen in other blogs, about ANR, where men are miffed at the female blogger who at some point declined their offer to suck her breasts. I have read intense debates from men and women where many men admitted 'it's just a breast' that happens to be attached to a woman. Women lament that finding sucklers is super easy, but that they don't want some stranger hanging from their breasts.

ANR is about bonding, comfort, intimacy and when you have the R it is about trust and vulnerability and no longer just breastfeeding or sucking a tit.

Sharing my breasts with someone is special, and reserved for a select few. My breasts are not for play by the masses or any old bloke that decides he wants a tit in his hands and mouth. Of those into ANR, I know many women feel this way; I know some men feel this way. No doubt each ANR is different just as each D/s relationship is unique and each vanilla relationship has its own set of commandments.

All this misunderstanding by men, and frustration for women in the realm of ANR got me to thinking about men's penises. What if a woman just wanted a man strictly for his penis. No she doesn't want to talk to him, get know him, or hear about his job, or know his likes and dislikes on any subject. She just knows this is a man with a penis and she wants to suck it. Yes guys imagine. You like blow jobs and women know this so they ask you “can I suck your dick?”, or they just ask to be email buddies and the first thing they do is ask “How long is it? It is thick or thin? Is the head round or helmut-like? Are you shaved? Straight or curved? Will you send me a picture of it? The cocky-woman says, “Let's meet... see if we connect.” Upon meeting you she says, “Whip it out!”

Guys does any of this make you feel disrespected? Used? Like a piece of meat...just a cock that happens to have a man attached?

Ahhh. I suspect some guys are saying to themselves? Nothing wrong with that...I'd love a woman to do that. Others—the clued in few may be thinking, “I don't want some strange chick hanging from my dick.”

The general belief is that men and women differ in depth of their emotion and that men are less expressive in their emotion. I think it is more a case of socially men have not learned how to express their felt emotions and/or they suppress them. This learned behavior retards them emotionally and makes them do and say stupid, juvenile or insensitive things in what are emotional situations. I believe this could explain why men are out of harmony with women when seeking an ANR.

*ANR: A relationship in which an adult's breast is suckled by an adult partner as an expression of intimacy. The suckling can be dry nursing or from lactating breasts. There are many reasons for forming such a relationship including a woman's need to nurture, to enhance the bond between the partners, or to induce lactation.